Nothing Compares to You
You – Versus – Me
From the time we were small we have learnt to compare ourselves to our peers. I see it with my young daughter when she meets someone her own age for the first time, eyeing them up to see who will make the first move to “break the ice” and all the while forming opinions before she even knows the child.
My son on the other hand has a unique way of “cracking a joke” when he meets someone new for the first time. His theory being that if he says something funny straight off and the other person laughs then he knows that they have similar personalities and there is “no ice” to be broken. Quite a mature view for someone so young, but it works for him and I commend his intellect.
Unfortunately as adults we’re not much better and compare ourselves to others often to our determent whether it is when we meet people for the first time or even with those who we already know.
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
It is so important to realise that it is not necessary to compare ourselves to others and that we should learn to develop a strong sense of our own self-worth, this can so be liberating. Having a sense of self-worth
means that you value yourself and having a sense of self-value means that you know you are “worth it“.
Within this wonderful journey called LIFE, we are all at different levels and it is very important to remember that everyone works in their own unique way and no two people are the same!
However as is often the case we typically measure our own self-worth by material and physical possessions and compare ourselves to our peers in the following ways:-
- Our appearance, versus our neighbour’s appearance, can range from the number on the scales to the size of clothes we wear, none of it matters in the great scheme of things yet we often use it as a yardstick to beat ourselves with.
- Our career or our professions, do you feel that others judge you by what you do, simple because it may not be considered a successful career? If you are happy in your chosen field, job or career than what does it matter? If you are not happy, then only you have the power to change that…
- It’s not “WHAT you know” – “it’s WHO you know” how superficial is this statement yet how many of us live by this statement. Our society very often shows us that it’s not what you have learn that will get you where you need to be/want to go, it’s WHO you know, WHO can help you up the ladder…when really MERIT is where the real value is and what we should be striving for.
- Your achievements, yes these are noteworthy, and we all have achievements of some description or another based upon our abilities and capabilities. But as is normal these will be unique to the achiever and judging someone’s worth on what they have achieved in business, or exam results or in their chosen sport is not really seeing the bigger picture or the complete person!
- “Net Worth” as in the monetary price attributed to the value of financial or material assets held by an individual. Judging someone by how much they are worth, how rude!
Below are a few of my very favourite “Be Yourself” Quotes – enjoy!
“The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday” ~ Unknown
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken” ~ Oscar Wilde
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind” ~ Bernard M. Baruch
“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring” ~ Marilyn Monroe
“Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness” ~ Allen Ginsberg
“Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, stop caring about what others think” ~ Roy T. Bennett,
In what way do you value yourself, please do share in the comments below.